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Can Just Looking at Online Dating Apps Ruin Your Marriage?

Posted by Christopher Holwell | Jun 28, 2018 | 0 Comments

We are in the "swipe" right or left age. Being able to order carry-out is wonderful especially from your iPhone app. But, today we now can order the superficially "perfect" date with just a swipe on our phones.

Being a divorce litigation attorney, I've had my share of clients had me a stack of printed out screenshots of their partners social-media activity.

While Facebook used to be a large source of incriminating photos and conversations, Tinder, for now, has taken the lead. More people call about their spouses browsing dating apps and it's not just husbands either.

In a recent consultation, the husband suspected something was happening with his wife based upon her Facebook activity. While the couple routinely was on social media, the husband notices the app his wife was swiping. When he confronted her, she admitted to downloading the app because her friends were using it and that she just wanted to see what it was all about. She claims to have never met anyone from any website and husband believed her. In his mind although, the trust was no longer there.

People do this behind their partner's back for many reasons; boredom, needing positive affirmation or after a fight. It becomes "sneaky" and as a result, we are seeing so many more people having relationship trouble. Not everyone is looking to cheat, but the act itself is perceived as cheating.

While cheating is nothing new, apps like Tinder, Snapchat, Hinge, POF and Bumble can be a real relationship hazard. Estimates show that four in ten people in relationships use Tinder.

There's a good chance that someone you know is using one of these apps. Other clients have told us that friends reached out to them to say they saw their profile. Others have said they received angry phone calls from the bitter spouse of a right-swipe warning them to stay away! A little online research can turn up a ton of personal information and phone numbers! Once your spouse finds out, it could be the end.

So, before you start downloading any new apps, think about what you really are getting.

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About the Author

Christopher Holwell

Christopher W. Holwell Attorney/Principal 9 years with Holwell Group, LLC/Law Offices of Christopher W. Holwell 19 years as a trial attorney for Divorce, Real Estate, Insurance Coverage, and Injury. One of my biggest accomplishments in a divorce case was getting a multi-million dollar settlement from a spouse that was not disclosing several million dollars in assets. In addition, I was able to get the other spouse to fully fund the one child's college education as part of the settlement. Another of my biggest accomplishments in an injury case was procuring a several hundred thousand dollar settlement for my 14-year-old client who suffered a knee injury during an after school athletic program. I was able to get all interested parties to set aside funds for the client's college fund in case his athletic scholarship was affected. I am constantly attending Continuing Legal Education seminars to stay up to date on any changes in the law that might affect any of my clients. My primary areas of practice are Divorce, Family Law, Real Estate, and Insurance Litigation. Most of my clients are concerned with what to do or what not to do when the first come to see me for a consultation or appointment. Their next concern is usually financial; what are they going to do now? How are they going to survive? I tell each client, based on their unique situation, what their options are and what will happen next. I am there for them from start to finish. The best part of my job is doing the work the client is too upset to do. While I understand the emotional roller-coaster clients go through, my experience allows me to step outside the emotion point of view, and use the law and facts to benefit my clients to the best of my ability. I was born in Oak Lawn, Illinois, was raised in Bridgeview up until college and now live in Lake County, Illinois with my family (my wife and three children.) I still have family in Bridgeview, Oak Lawn, and Orland Park. A little-known fact about me is that I love astronomy and anything to do with the stars and planets. In my free time, I tend to read a lot, usually late at night and play with my children and new Newfoundland puppy, Indy (Indiana Jones) I am admitted to practice law in Illinois and all Federal Courts including the Supreme Court of the Untied States of America. I treat my clients like friends. You can reach me at: (312) 648-6115 [email protected] [email protected] Linkedin: Christopher W. Holwell Facebook: Holwell Law Group, LLC


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