Living Alone After a Divorce
Making the adjustment to being alone can take time. That's a really generic answer but sometimes those answers are the best.
It may take months before a new place will feel like home. It will eventually get there.
So what will help?
Keep yourself on a set schedule. Don't try to change your life the day after your divorce is final. Keep your regular routine; if you are an early riser, stay that way. The little things will add up over time. Everyone knows who Bruce Lee is. Bruce Lee said, “I fear not the man who has practiced 10,000 kicks once, but I fear the man who has practiced one kick 10,000 times.” Another excellent example is from Admiral William McRaven who gave the commencement speech at the University of Texas, Austin. What is it? Make Your Bed. It is a little victory that will set the tone for the rest of your day.
Keep a list
It can be extremely helpful to keep a list of tasks. Why? Not only does it keep you on top of all the little things you need to do, it helps keep you from getting overwhelmed. You will probably have a lot on your mind in the first few months after your divorce, so the more you can get out of your head and on paper, the clearer your thought process will be. This will also help you from getting overwhelmed with tasks that pile up.
Invite people to your place
Most people will not know how to act especially if they are still married. Invite your friends to you place. By taking action, it will make them feel more at ease at seeing you are ok with what has happened. Remember friends are friends. You will make them feel better and as a result, make yourself feel better.
Don't get caught up in your own negative thoughts
You are your own best friend or worst critic. Divorce is widely thought of as a negative event but in many cases, it the best thing that could have happened. People change, situations change, everything is in a constant state of change. Be sure to not let your divorce be only about the negative. Start the day with a conversation with yourself and decide that the world is a good place and you are part of it.